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I wonder how you feel today? Lonely, stressed, anxious, fed up, angry?


Recognition and Acceptance


A wide range of uncomfortable feelings will be affecting all of us as we enter yet another lockdown. Recognition and Acceptance of these uncomfortable feelings are the first steps to gaining control. It is ok to feel these feelings. Life is not perfect and it is impossible to be happy all the time. Allow yourself time to feel and name these uncomfortable feelings.


At The Wonder Tree we call this time our ‘Worry Windows’. Talk to your children about how they are feeling about not going to school and share your own feelings in a child friendly way so that they know it’s ok to have uncomfortable feelings.





Recognising and accepting are the first steps to relieving the tension that the uncomfortable feeling has created. Notice the sensations you feel in your body and then you may begin to notice your body relaxing. The feeling will then be easier, more comfortable fo your to sit with. Accepting these feelings without judgement will then help us to help our children to cope with their own feelings.

What are uncomfortable feelings?


At The Wonder Tree we prefer to use the term uncomfortable rather than bad/negative/monster/big feelings as we want children to understand that we all have a range of feelings and emotions and that all emotions are ok.



Be Brave!


'I am brave' is one of our Wonder Tree affirmations. Yoga teaches us that we are brave enough to cope with the uncomfortable sensations in our body that some of the poses create when we hold them. We talk about the difference between being in pain and being uncomfortable. This helps children to relate to the idea of uncomfortable feelings and the sensations they create inside our bodies. The children sub-consciously begin to understand that life isn't always comfortable, but that that's ok.




Worry Windows


It's ok to have these uncomfortable feelings. It is ok to spend some time with them whilst practising self care. Recognise, name and accept your uncomfortable feelings - explore them through either: self talk, talking to others, writing, drawing or journalling. What are you feeling? How do you know? How does your body show it? What thoughts are you experiencing? Why have you got this uncomfortable feeling? What happened?



How to Become Comfortable with the Uncomfortable


At The Wonder Tree we talk about exercising the 3B's, the Body, Brain and Breath, through the 5Ms, Movement, Mindfulness, Meditation, Mantra's and Massages. However, when we talk about uncomfortable feelings we focus on the 5C's:


Challenge, Change and Choices = Comfort and Control


You can challenge any negative thoughts, remember not all thoughts are facts!


You can also change any negative thoughts for more positive ones. One of the Wonder Powers we encourage at The Wonder Tree is for children to understand that they have the power of 'Mind Control'. We teach, 'I can control my mind, I will not let my thoughts control me.' We practise mindfulness, meditation and mantra's to grow this Wonder Power.


You have choices. You can either:

- stay with this uncomfortable feeling and try and cope with it, or

- you can distract yourself from it by practising self care or doing something more positive, or

- you can choose to make a plan and take action.


The 3C's will help to empower you, they will help you to gain control and comfort so you can carry on with your day.

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